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Knowing when to push… and when to be patient

by Ashley Ballard

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I’d consider myself a very patient person. I’m usually ok waiting for things I want, I let my kids make and fix mistakes to learn from them, I don’t hang up when I’m put on hold, etc. But when does being patient turn into being overlooked?

I’m a big believer in “Whatever is, will be.” I try not to push others too much because, quite frankly, I feel if they’re not willing to work with me, I shouldn’t waste my time forcing them. This has proven to be a terrible business strategy because, as I’ve come to find out, most people need a little encouragement.

I guess my problem is that I push myself so hard, and I know others do the same. I go and go and feel accomplished when I’m exhausted at the end of the day, staring into space at my invisible trophies. But what did I really gain? More time with my family? No. A fun night out with friends? Nope… except the house is pretty clean.

Sometimes I worry my patience in business has made me a cast-off because I never get upset no matter how long I have to wait for results. Is my “patience” masking my fear of rejection or conflict? There’s not much I detest more than rejection and conflict, as I had a lot of that growing up in the music industry. Though a lot of people thrive in a more cutthroat environment, I don’t.

Where does that leave me? How do I fit into the landscape of the music business? Will all this passion bubbling up inside me go to waste?

Because of my calm demeanor, I’ve been accused of lacking enthusiasm and drive. Often times, due to my insecurities, I believe it.

But I don’t believe it right now. If people with a talent were all meant to be the same person, we would be. But we come in all shapes and sizes, and I don’t believe I have to be a shark to make something beautiful.

I will be kind. I will be patient. And I will also ask for what I want until I get it. There’s nothing in this life that can’t be yours with a little persistence and ingenuity.

I’ll work on the strength to advance a little harder. I’ll try not being so patient that people forget I’m waiting. Who knows, maybe what I’m looking for is just around the corner?

I’ll be waiting… patiently.

Ashley Ballard

About Ashley Ballard

Ashley Ballard is a recording artist and mother of two. Visit Ashley on Facebook and follow her on Twitter

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