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Know when to fold ’em

by Matt Boren

We are taught to make it work. Make it all work. Our friendships. Our jobs. Our business relationships.

My grandma Gertie used to say “Well, that’s my lot in life.” Gertie, and so many of her depression era peers lived by the “it is what it is” model. They believed cards were dealt to them and they had to play with that deck. Not any other deck. That deck. I guess they didn’t know millions and millions of decks of cards exist. I have a collection including a special The Sopranos edition and a Wynn Hotel pack someone gave me at, of all places, The Bellagio.

We don’t have to sleep in our bed just because we made it, or whatever that expression is. And we don’t have to make it work. We can put our best foot forward and explore dynamics in our lives to unearth possible solutions to unhealthy situations. We can seek guidance about problems in our relationships and find better ways to communicate our feelings. We can give things our best shot or a few of our best shots but we don’t have to give anything every shot. We don’t have to sit, mired in something unfixable. We don’t have to make it work.

In breaking stories for television episodes I am all for digging into an idea, however if that idea doesn’t show itself to have the legs necessary for a great story, I trust I can create another idea. It’s okay to walk away from a story that isn’t working. It’s also okay to walk away from relationships that aren’t working. I hate the word “try” but for lack of a more suitable one, I now know it’s good to “try” making things work and it’s good to “know when to fold ’em. Know when to walk away.”

We are dealt a ton of cards in life. And we can shuffle our deck anytime we please.

Matt Boren

About Matt Boren

Matt Boren grew up on the East Coast. He is a writer/actor currently living in Los Angeles. He danced to "My Prerogative" at his bar mitzvah where his theme was Hollywood.

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